Is there some way to customize the small instant messenger that comes with Dolphin?
I'm referring to the small Flash messenger chat that's found at http://mysite.com/im.php (sorry I don't know what its name is).

I would like to change the way that it looks so that its style matches my site's style.

Is that possible?
If not, what alternatives do I have for a good, simple, instant message application that users can use to chat with specific people that they meet on my dating site (not a public chat room)?

I'm using Dolphin version 5.6.0005.

Thanks!